I agree w/OneArt's suggestion. I would start purchasing gift card every time you grocery shop. Less obvious that way. If you squirrel away cash, put it in a safe place, a place that he won't find it, if he should happen to come around snooping, i.e., the same would apply to the gift cards. You have to protect yourself financially, but he will certainly not care if you have money, food, clothing or a roof over your head. It's all about him and what he wants.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
