Thank you for reminding me that even good dbers have a hard time learning life's lessons. You're doing great and anything easily won isn't worth having! These lessons are hard fought - and will last a lifetime if we learn them well.
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. ~ Victor Borge
Hi everyone - Been an interesting, and extremely busy few days at NiceGuy and Slowly's place Most of our energies have gone into work, but we did also play with a difference!
On Monday, NG was supposed to drop me off at airport, but had to pull out due to meeting running over. No matter, we survived. Trip went well, managed to check in and post from airport too! Tuesday NG picked me up frm airport, and we went to the theatre.
OW and her H were there I did not see them till we were leaving, but NG said later he spotted them as we were being seated. He did not want to ruin the show for me . Anyways, we managed to handle it ok, NG was holding my hand as we were leaving and I saw OW look at our clasped hands and then at NG, he just nodded. Am I childish to feel gleeful about this?
Some more positives, BUT the longer post is not going through, so I'll get another one going. Slowly.
While packing for the trip, I forgot that I had brought Shirley Glass Not Just Friends home, normally I read these books at work, did not want NG to feel pressured.
Turns out while I was away, NG had been reading this a lot. It seems to give him the strength to stay away from OW. We had a brief chat on Weds night, and he said he has concluded that no matter how gentle he is in the break-up OW is too stubborn to let go gracefully, and the book confirmed his view that there is nothing else he can do but walk away cleanly. I learned during this convo, that H feel bad because he initiated the A, and wanted to make sure OW would be OK, but now realises that he has done as much as he can.
NG had expressed remorse to OW H, and he is quite disappointed that OW had not done the same to me. He has apparently suggested she consider doing so, and make it clear to me that she will be moving on with her life. To be honest, what she says is not of importance, the fact that NG feels what he does is such a balm to my bruised heart.
Most of our energies have gone into work, but we did also play with a difference!
I did not see them till we were leaving, but NG said later he spotted them as we were being seated. He did not want to ruin the show for me . Anyways, we managed to handle it ok, NG was holding my hand as we were leaving and I saw OW look at our clasped hands and then at NG, he just nodded. Am I childish to feel gleeful about this? 