Yes, KML thank you for the priceless efforts to remind us to keep an eye on those items. In the past I would have said, he would never do that, he is not reckless with money (he was wearing the crappy shorts I bought him at Costco 15 years ago and still drives his 6 year old car with a million miles). I'm pretty sure I said he'd never drink or take drugs. So, yes, I have a monitor on my credit. We have only one joint credit card account and it is the top account on my mobile banking app. I keep it at $0 balance so any charge on there stands out. I only keep it because the credit limit is high and divorce kills credit. Plus if he screws me over on the support again I'll just charge everything to that card.
I think DnJ that you are right. I do think all the reasons apply and at some moments one is at the fore and at others another is. I don't think anything with him is ever static. I don't know enough about poker to know what a winning hand is, but I like that you are collecting 4s instead of holding out for a royal flush. I think it shows what a stable, logical guy you are and how a win for you is a good solid play.
Ok Peace, that is a very hard question you asked. I thought everyone would hit me on that one, which was why I didn't mention it at first. When he looked at me so intently, and I do have to say this, he has the most lovely eyes of anyone I've ever seen, that for a moment I felt like I saw the old him. I wouldn't say I felt an attraction, it was more of a feeling of less of a revulsion in that moment. For about two years now I have really seen him as a syphilitc chancre so maybe that was the first time I didn't feel complete disgust the whole time I was in his presence. But, he did say some really sh$tty things to me, which I knew were projection and score-keeping, but they definitely helped keep things in perspective.
His lawyer even managed to screw up the dismissal, which I had to rewrite. They wrote it with prejudice meaning that neither of us could refile for divorce. Uh, no. My lawyer seems to be hiding, so I have no idea when it will be filed. I have not heard from him to set up a time for our big getting it done talk next week.
