Still foggy, still going (Phoenix9 DB XI)

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She said (again) that she grieved and she deserves to finish the process. And to not be whiplashed.

WW garbage:

"I deserve to be happy"

"How will I do this?"

"I am being whiplashed"

Phoenix, can't believe you got roped into this. She got whiplashed? She did? I hope you said, "Excuse me, but you cheating has whiplashed you? Haha, that's rich" (*I stole Steve's phrase....)

I told her that this is my last hump. To which she said "No it certainly isn't".

I think she is right, but so what? It doesn't matter! It's how emotions go. It seems she was just being mean by saying this.

She then asked me if this is the way we want to continue living (stay legally married and do what we are doing). I said "yes".

But that's not exactly true right? I know you want and are capable of a healthy, productive relationship! You've been working hard to be a better man so that you can love and be loved! You are a family man! You don't settle for garbage like this b/c you know you worth it. You will continue to get stronger and you won't be saying things like this anymore in my opinion.

She again (3rd or 4th time) told me that she is going to execute the original plan. I told her that I know and she expressed that desire to me already.

People who have and are sure of their plan state it firmly, then execute it. Telling you over and over makes me think she doesn't know what she wants, plus she still hasn't filed or started any of the work for it. Keep on your path!!!

I really like that you didn't back down from your position on not contributing to the divorce, and saying you won't impede her. Now you build on that! I want you to be more confident in yourself, I think you have a lot to offer and you don't need to make yourself little to accommodate your W.