So I am going to lean on that learning to help avoid sitch #3.
I can tell you, that #2, #3 , #4 , #5...
None of them will matter, if YOU aren't where you wanna be.
You are figuring that out now...
Life isn't all unicorns and rainbows after the affair, or just because she changes her mind today.
TBH ??
I feel that a lot of this is based on your expectations, of what things should look like, instead of taking them at face value and building together what the future of #2 looks actually looks like.
Trying to apply principals of the #1 into #2 and so forth.
Kinda like you wouldn't go into a car dealer, and buy a new car, only to have them install your old engine in it, because you think it will last another 20 feet or so....
Just because there is a comfortability, doesn't mean that their should be a complacency....
That's why I asked the questions, and also about the social media site....
Love isn't about what you receive, it's about what you give.
Do you love your daughter because she gives so much to you ??
Or because of what you give to her ?
Mach, the quote about love being what you give is great! Thank you for that reminder!!
Agree with everything you said. I can honestly say that I am in a good place. I am where I want to be. And there will never be a sitch #4 or #5. Because I am where I want to be, if she were to BD #3 me, as I've told others, my response would be, "Okay, so how quickly can you be out of the house?" I am in a much better place within myself.
I also appreciate the comfortability vs complacency point. Very good. I think I can honestly say that while we are more comfortable I have not become complacent. And I won't. Ever again.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
