If you can't afford both then maybe you stop and she starts. I just feels like you are putting the cart before the horse with all of this dating and spending time together. You are not 100% completely healed and I don't think she has done any work on herself.
If you stop and she starts at least you have the board to discuss things with.
I hear you Joseph9, but I would advicate that Joe2017 not take this approach. If they were both 100% focused on the R, maybe it could be a discussion. But Joe's desire for IC should not be placed below his XW's need for IC. He's gotta take care of himself first. Without two healthy partners, a R is doomed. Joe can only be responsible for being healthy in himself, but is not responsible for making XW healthy. She's got to do that.
Are there therapists that XW can phone/skype into on her lunch break? With a busy schedule, perhaps a therapist who is open to remote meetings might work better for her. I know some offer that service.
