The spending thing is hard and something I struggle with. Where I am the court considers our standard of living. If I sock a lot away, I aid the argument that I need less support. If I don't, then I don't have a fallback and can be painted as a spender. Think about ways of stockpiling that might be less obvious. We've discussed this somewhere before, but gift cards that don't expire and that you won't lose, some cash, extra food or clothing you might not have to buy later. That sort of thing. Spending money (get out an extra $60 every time you buy groceries or whatever, so it isn't obvious taking money out of an ATM) but also having things you can fall back on later.
