We have been arguing a few times a week because I have so many triggers, and she can't understand why the same triggers get me over and over. I think she believes if we talk about it once, then that is enough. Obviously it is not. We don't have much time together during the week and it is difficult to make quality time for us to have heart to hearts.
Is it something that she does that triggers you? Can you give us an example?
What are you needing from her when these triggers hit? Is this when you want to talk about things?
You are right, she doesn't understand why you need to talk about it more than once......and it's probably something she had rather drop the subject. Have you told her what you need from her when these triggers hit you? Don't expect her to just automatically know how to respond.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
