This sounds very positive. New house....fresh start. I think that really will be welcome. It's a good sign if househunting was fun. They say that can be a real stressor in a marriage...reconciling different needs and different desires for what to include in a space. But you two have lived together for a long time and really have an understanding of how you want to hang out! Much history...How can any OW match those intangibles?
I'm glad that you are enjoying the attention and love he is showing. He seems to be very receptive to dealing with your pain about the affair. Remember to take THAT slowly, too, and maybe validate and thank him when he has been particularly sensitive to your feelings...WOW. I really get excited reading your progress.
I see so many consistencies in the stories people share when they are getting close to full reconciliation.I get a little intimidated because I can see how, after holding back and db'ing through terrible experience, the anger and impatience might really overwhelm just as you are getting so close. That has to be hard.
You said you are having difficulty handling the pain. Can you think of some strategies that will help you handle the pain and also some to help you keep clear about when you want to have R talks?
You are doing incredibly well. And your example gives the rest of us a lot of hope...and your visits to many of us on the bb brings us a tremendous amount of encouragement in our personal journeys.
