He's not ready to give you up. He wants you to remain right where he left you pre crisis. I did think of one other reason why he went for dismissal. Maybe he's got a lady friend who is pushing for a more permanent relationship and he doesn't want it, so he's using the lack of a divorce as an excuse.
It's really hard to determine what is going on in his mind...but in time, more will be revealed.
Continue to live your life and I hope that your son is doing better today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
