Hi Slowly, You're here early today (actually still yesterday night here.). Hope that the eventful weekend was eventful in a good way ... for the most part?
Quote: This weekend, it transpired that NG honestly thinks that the current status is OK with me - i.e. he has conversations that feed residual feelings wit OW, and lives life as he best can with me. Sooo, I needed to correct this perspective, that I still feel we have a long way to go. NG could not understand what else I wanted.
Well I think some of it is getting thru to NG. The tinket I think is evidence of that! ... but for the most part, I'm sure NG just does not have any comprehension of how the extramarital R impacts you. How can he really, he has never been in your shoes. What has worked for a few around here is to find gentle ways that will show NG how to walk a mile in your shoes. One of the more recent "Piecers" that come to mind in Talitsa.
Quote: This week is another hectic one for me, need to find time and energy to regroup and rethink where this is all heading.
Sounds like you may be have a hard time seeing the forest thru the trees. The positives are there ... the baby steps are there ... the progress towards a better R is there, and thereby potential for a better M is getting closer.
Hope that the eventful weekend was eventful in a good way ... for the most part?
