Hi everyone - Been an eventful weekend, finally some time to follow-up on my own thread Also have had some time to reflect on what THAT conversation was all about.

I think I needed NG to know that I understood his perspective on maintaining contact - otherwise it was going underground and developing into who knows what. And putting 'I'm OK" on the table worked, NG tells me there have been several phone calls to 'clarify' things, sharing emotions and setting expectations. For me, it is better I know these things that live in cloud cuckoo land

This weekend, it transpired that NG honestly thinks that the current status is OK with me - i.e. he has conversations that feed residual feelings wit OW, and lives life as he best can with me. Sooo, I needed to correct this perspective, that I still feel we have a long way to go. NG could not understand what else I wanted

Still thinking, Slowly

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