ST I can relate...exact same personality...or disorder with my WW. The second I no longer became her doormat she turned angry and when she started respecting me again. Mine has been slowly coming back but I am not sure if that is what I want anymore....just too much damage done at this point as you can relate.
I do wish she would agree to sell the house so we could move on but she won't. I actually envy that you are moving towards that so your life can move on to a happier place.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019