Building my best self and life with or without W

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Steve means you don't respond to her at all unless it's in regards to your daughter. Flat out ignore her, except for your daughter. You drop your daughter off as quickly as possible.

The conversation will do nothing but add pressure to your W. What's the point of it? To TELL her you're done and over her? Well she won't believe it until you SHOW her. That's why the NC. You aren't healed. She isn't healed. You both need time and space. I think this is the best course for you. And you are trying and DOING some of the right things, if only you could get your W's talons out of your back for a while.

During IC we talked about the end of this separation and how to approach it with w.

If you want to end it with divorce, which I know you don't, then you would just file for divorce and let some cop serve her divorce papers and cease contact.

Since I know you want to save your marriage, give her time and space and go NC to prevent her from keeping you attached to her. What's the longest you've gone without talking to her throughout this whole situation?

I think you are feeling pumped up and inspired to make a positive change in your life. That's awesome! You are used to success your way and now. The fact that this isn't happening very quickly has got to be frustrating. But you probably haven't even gone more than w or 3 days without communicating with your W about nonessentials.

I'm gonna read your links and I'll let you know what I think there.