She is 100% adamant that its over. Nothing is going to change that womans mind that is for sure.
Said every LBS on these forums ever. She seems resolute right now but in 6 months? A year? 3 years? Who knows. They do often change their minds back again. But you can't sit around waiting, you've got to focus on you. And it sounds like you are starting to do that, so good!
Where I’m kinda at right now. Feeling like it’s over and nothing’s going to change her mind, ever.
But yes, keep focus on self and the boys.
So look at this post.
You answer AS' questions based on HER. Then say "keep the focus on self and the boys".
Step back and think about it from Bo's perspective? What does Bo want? And answer this for Bo WITHOUT her being the focus. Things like:
"Bo wants to be healthy and happy, a good father, and in a mutual loving relationship with a wonderful woman."
See the difference?
Your answer was not up to you but up to your W. The second answer is up to you! The wonderful woman may be your W in the future, or some other woman.The point is that don't be the LBS that only thinks about his future in terms of HER choice, but rather looks at it in terms of the LBS' choice.
You will be happy and fulfilled again. WITH OR WITHOUT her.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
