You're on this site so you are trying to save your marriage. Then you're not sure if you would reconcile and now apparently you are settling for your W. Do you see how you're all over the place?
You need to take sometime and be by yourself which will give you a chance to work on you.
Are you addressing the issues that caused your W to cry in the shower?
Yeah.....I am all over the place. Need to get off my rollercoaster, let alone W’s. I do want to save our MR—but I have to wonder at what price? Can this be saved? To me it doesn’t feel like she wants to save it, but I know that those are her current feelings, right now.
The ‘settling’ part is more of down the road—I just don’t want to settle to settle. Don’t want to settle for someone else down the road, don’t want to settle for recon just to recon—I want to make sure things are better in the future and for the future.
She would cry in the shower because of how she felt that I treated her—especially with respect to not listening to her, so the remedies are being more into actions and not words, trying to not procrastinate / be forgetful, and I think sex is one of them in the past, but I’m not pursuing sex with her (more like pursuing overall).
I am trying better to listen to her, prove myself more with actions instead of just talk, and not put things off and better cope with / manage forgetfulness.
