At the Legal Endgame!

[SoTorn]

SoTorn, AS, and Davide:

Thanks for the perspective on dating and what your experiences have been. I am also wondering if the dating scene is better in larger cities. I was on a couple of dating apps and it was a bit absurd. However, I need to up my game and I also want to meet women in natural settings. 2018 was more of a hermit stage for me as my main GAL activities took a hit. But with me ramping those up this year, I know that I will have more opportunities.

Sex is abundant if you just want to get laid and you relax your standards - men and women. I know I can get that if I want, but I think I'd rather have a date along with it than just being strictly between the sheets business. I am looking for some connection. I am excited to explore all of this and I'll keep y'all posted on my trysts with dating.

I had a dating app set up. Tried it both on friend mode and date mode. I met five women through that. Before I even started talking I had advised of my sitch and that I wasnt trying to hookup or marry someone. All were ok and met for a very casual meet for coffee or food. Very casual talks about life experiences. Never had any interest in furthering even a friendship with all five. Two of them tried to pursue me very quickly, one for love and one for sex. Blocked both.

Depends on where you live. Meeting women where I live is easy, meeting one that you even mildly like is difficult.

That being said I met a sixth woman without trying to even do so as a date or anything. I had been talking about a FB group subject with this woman. Not even a hint of any sort of pursuit or relationship type talk, just benign chatter about a topic.

We ended up eventually talking about my sitch. This woman is 13 years younger. I got invited to meet in person as she lives out of state and I was attending an event, one of many, in said state. I met this woman and yes i can say i more than mildly like her and i am very attracted to her.

I have talked with her about me being interested and her being interested, but that i need to get out of my MR and live alone aka do me and heal before i would even consider anything serious. This woman is very nice and agrees. Plus she lives in a different state so there is zero chance she can or will move to my state and legally impossible for me to move to hers.

So that being said we will re-evaluate in about a year and if we are still talking and meeting up once in a while we can decide to further develop our relationship. Both of us are in full GAL mode in our respective states.

This woman is hugely anti codependent, anti NPD and anti nice guy syndrome because of her past experiences. So that works for me.

And yes, I have zero desire or hope for my MR. I'm not putting myself through years more of emotional abuse. I am going to enjoy my new female friends company when possible and be happy about it.