Hi PIB - Thanks so much for the input - it is great to see the same issue from a different perspective. Understanding truly comes in layers, doesn't it?
Quote: And the words he said did not match the meaning of the same words to me. Lost in translation between manspeak and womanspeak
Absolutely. Communications is something that H and I need to work on, we often take away different meanings and conclusions from the same discussion
Quote: In any case...I think the key is in telling him that I know he's not the bad guy...that I just need reassurance...that I'm scared. But I think to begin with, I went to him about panic attacks that I was having in regards to others...issues that had nothing to do with him. And when he reassured me, I was quick to thank him for making me feel safe.
This is the key, for me. I refuse to pretend I need help. What I am comfortable doing is asking for help or support when I genuinely feel the need. For me this means re-setting my expectations of myself. Slowly
