Thanks AS and Ovr. I just have to figure out what to say. She already knows that I'm frustrated and impatient with her lack of anything physical, because it's been talked about repeatedly in MC. Basically i could see it going something like this:
Me: I need to talk to you. I think we should stop going to MC. Her: Why? Me: It doesn't seem like it's helping very much. We've been going for 4+ months, and we still haven't moved past a platonic relationship. Her: Like I and MC said, you can't expect to go from 'nothing' to sex in a matter of weeks/months. It takes time. I can't believe you wouldn't want to continue this, after the progress we've made. Me: I haven't asked for sex. But you refuse to kiss me, hold my hand, touch my leg, hug me, etc. If it hasn't happened after 4 months of getting along great, how can i believe it's ever going to happen? Her: I'm starting to get those feelings back. I've just had so much stuff going on, stress, issues, etc, etc, etc
Or, she'd get pissed and say 'well if you can't be patient then maybe we should stop trying'.
The point is, she's typically better at these conversations than I am. I usually end up looking like an idiot.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14