I struggle with the concept of keeping sitch quiet. I know everyone's sitch is different but you know the WSs friends are usually in on what they are doing and the lies that they are being told.
Like I said I think it is situational. My WW is so delusional that her issues with our M are 80% fabricated. Through her IC, my IC, research, rethinking the history of our relationship she has issues that have gone untreated and lead to two As in 10 years. I'm sorry but my family needed to know what my family was going through, sweeping this under the rug led to this second A.
I don't advise going public, but I was attacked by my inlaws about why my W was so unhappy and it was in defense that I had to provide full disclosure and ask for their help...not to save my M but to help their daughter with her mental health. They just didn't see the severity of her waywardness and substance abuse and the only way they would engage.
Honestly, so far so good, her parents have worked to engage with their D and my family has been their to help with my kids. I don't know how things would have turned out if I hadn't told anyone but I think I would be a kettle ready to explode as I have had to dodge family events, holiday activities, etc.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
