B- sounds like you are handling things quite well, keep it up! Great job in being firm with her and only marginally available.
Originally Posted by blakmac
She mentioned during that convo that if she were to come back, she'd never be able to talk to several of her friends again. That seemed to be her sticking point - losing face. I asked her point blank if I was worth it to her...she said "Our S is worth it, but I would be losing a lot."
I'm curious how you responded? I would have been inclined to say "if you ever get to that point we can discuss it, but don't assume I am willing to just jump back into a relationship with you." On the losing face thing, there was a woman that posted here years ago who had been a WAS but had reconciled. She said that was the one thing that almost stopped her from reconciling is the thought of having to go to all her friends and family and explain to them why she was getting back with the man who she had been telling people was such a selfish, uncaring, abusive jerk for so long. She said pride almost stopped her from doing it, even though she KNEW she was WRONG!! I've said it before but I do wonder how many potential recons never get off the ground because the WAS is too embarrassed to say he/ she was wrong to anyone.
