Quote: I'm still having a hard time with memory triggers – like OW's gift to H that he still carries around on his key ring – why is he so unwilling to put me out of my misery?
(((((Slowly))))) For some reason of which I have yet seen explained there is a definate lag before the S fully comprehends the impact their infidelity has on their M partner. I have seen some sitches here where that lag can take up to a year or so.
In the meantime you are putting together on heck of an arsenal of DBing tools to combat nasty triggers. BTW, the "itty butt" has been one of my favorites.
I know this does ease the hurt any, but it does help you deal with it better and over time it does lessen more and more. I wish I can offer a way to take it all away, but alas all I can offer is that I share in how you feel, so you are not alone in that regard and hope knowing that will lend some comfort.
