Interesting topic. I sometimes feel like you Bo. My W had been in long-term relationships her whole adult life. When we met she had just had a bad breakup, she was approaching 30, and desperately wanted kids. I come along and she was hesitant at first. She was drawn to me because I was different. I was a non drinker, pious and talked differently (no cussing, etc). We started as friends, and then one weekend she fell hard. From that moment I was a prince in her eyes. Could do no wrong. She hung on my every word. She wanted to do nothing unless it involved me.
Married two years after that. Daughter born (after one miscarriage) 4 years later. We have tried on and off over the years for another child but it never happened. We had the hiccup in 2005 with her EA when I got brooding and distant due to my feeling entitled and hurt at lack of sex. After we got through that things got back to where she loved and respected me. But then I started brooding and distancing again as the SSM came back.
The point is that sometimes I feel like I was a means to an end. She got the marriage. The house (houses at the moment!). And a baby.
I feel like once she had all that, her mixed feelings returned, she for bored, and was ripe for someone who was exciting again.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
