That's pretty much what I said. I just added "please tell her she is in my thoughts and prayers." She replied with "I will," and then went on to talk about the snowstorm approaching NY and getting S18 back to college.
AS, I'm curious. Do you ever totally "get over" your ex? Or do you just move on?
Well I can't speak for everyone, but personally I feel like I did get over her. I'm not sure I can really convey how it "feels" to get to this point but I'll try with a few kind of random thoughts: I don't know if she's currently seeing anyone but she has dated quite a bit and sometimes talks to me about it and I have no weird feelings about it. It's like talking to a neighbor. We do stuff together with the kids sometimes, like for S16's bday we went and did a room escape thing, had dinner, played some games. We opened presents together at Christmas. It doesn't make me pine away for the "good old days" or make me wish we were still married, or anything like that. I think both of us just like having that "family time" now and then and then go back to our separate lives. Sure we do it for the kids, but I enjoy having her there and I think she likes me being there too. Neither of us goes out of our way to see each other, but since we still have shared custody of S16 we do see each other about once a week and we usually will sit down and catch up on stuff like old friends. I guess if I were to sum it up that's kind of what our relationship feels like now is "old friends". There's no anger or resentment or sadness or anxiety there. It's just kind of casually comfortable I guess. Does that make sense?
