I haven’t seen too much remorse per se; what I have seen from her are: 1.) she brought up pursuing marriage counseling (as married, but separated, and doing that on her terms); 2.) she brought up the potential for recon down the road; 3.) she admitted the other night that both of us have some responsibility in this (but she did NOT mention anything about her role in this).
I have my concerns about her doing MC (would she be doing it to use it to vent against me, or would she do it to check it off the box and say ‘welp I’ve done everything I could, guess we better follow through on the divorce’), and I go back and forth about recon’ing—I’m deeply conflicted if I want to with her, all things considered.
If any of this sounds like remorse, then yeah—she’s showing remorse.
Bo your W is not showing remorse she is manipulating you. She wants you to agree to her terms of the divorce. Prior to the D WW/WAW may have doubts that they never show but that is not remorse.
Remorse if it comes is years down the road when they realize how much hurt and destruction they caused and still did not find their happiness.
