She is full-bore on starting the divorce process (she wants to separate, so that means filing for divorce—probably doesn’t make sense but whatevs).
I haven’t seen too much remorse per se; what I have seen from her are: 1.) she brought up pursuing marriage counseling (as married, but separated, and doing that on her terms); 2.) she brought up the potential for recon down the road; 3.) she admitted the other night that both of us have some responsibility in this (but she did NOT mention anything about her role in this).
I have my concerns about her doing MC (would she be doing it to use it to vent against me, or would she do it to check it off the box and say ‘welp I’ve done everything I could, guess we better follow through on the divorce’), and I go back and forth about recon’ing—I’m deeply conflicted if I want to with her, all things considered.
If any of this sounds like remorse, then yeah—she’s showing remorse.
But to me, I haven’t seen anything that traditionally looks like remorse. If you or anyone here on the forum see it in what I’ve said, please let me know.
