RVA18 - I honestly think it depends on your partner, but so far mine is playing the victim. Unable to acknowledge any personal stake in our situation, ambiguously apologizes for "anything he did to mess things up, and would undo it all if he could make things right"...but also "I'm still mad at you for the things you do to tick me off" ...sooo I'd say the advice to take it slow and take everything with a grain of salt is so, so true. Fingers crossed you've got an exception to the rule but in my creeping on these boards, it's likely you should buckle up and you'll know when your partner is undergoing true changes.
