You guys have given me so much to chew on. Some stuff that I know I have to do. I had such a hard time distinguishing between being needy and needing him. I still do.
I am also a strong woman. MIL says she thinks H had EA because I wasn't in enough need of him being my knight. Maybe she is right.
Although there are some great examples here, it is something I am so confused about. I am the type that needs a recipe. OK, so letting him plan something, that's good, right? And letting him comfort me would probably be good, if I know him as well as I think I do. What else?
Man, am I bad at this? I also was raised to be a strong woman. One of my earliest memories is of my mother constantly wearing a t shirt (in the early 70s) that read "A Woman's place is in the House... AND in the Senate." That was my role model, and she never taught me to be weakly attractive to my man. She taught me to handle whatever life threw at me.
I have a feeling many of us here are suffering from the same issues. How to balance being feminine with being self sufficient.
Oh my oh my oh my, I've just succeeded in confusing myself even more. It seems that my "feminine wiles" should be instinctive, but apparently I did not inherit them.
How about being stickly sweet - is that feminine? My H seems to like me when I am nice to everyone. More soft spoken, more like the demure women of old. At least in public. He also likes me taking charge.
So, how to know when and where?
Have I succeeded in confusing anyone else?
Oh well, thanks Slowly and Betsey and everyone else for giving us food for thought.
