Not going to do a long recap - anyone interested in my journey from day 1 can go back to the previous thread links and find my entire story. Here are the main tidbits: BD in spring 2017; W moved out in a few weeks after that; we sold our brand new first home that we had bought 6 months ago; started DBing just after W moved out; definite EA; I started to put my life back together, which didn't really pick up until 6-8 months after BD; spent most of 2018 doing personal recovery work and figuring out life; I started the separation agreement process end of 2018 - we both agree on everything and so it's just getting paperwork done; and we will jointly file for D as soon as the agreement is done with.
Hence, the title of this thread. I am in the legal endgame right now and once all of that is done, it will finally close this chapter in a formal way. I don't have any desire to recon with W even if she flips the switch - she needs to do too much work and I don't want to wait around for that eventuality - the chances of that happening are very remote.
I am doing really well. Had some major setbacks on 2018 and I had to shelve some of my personal goals and plans, but I am getting healthier and should be able to pick it up in a month or so. I am so looking forward to it.
Kids are doing better, but they do still have some difficult days. My parenting game is on point and my relationship with my kids is a thousand times better as I have gone through my own personal growth which has allowed me to improve myself, resulting in my improved parenting.
I am diligently working on my growth mindset and here are some things I am doing this year:
1. Learning French. I started classes and hopefully by the end of this year, I should have a good working knowledge of the language. It will be an added skillset making me more marketable in the job market, but also great to add another language in my arsenal. I already speak 4 languages.
2. Get my diet and workout routines down.
3. Consistently do meditation and waking up early. Get proper sleep every night.
4. Be brutally intentional with my time. I have a schedule that I follow and it's amazing how much I can get done. The schedule also includes down time so I can recharge.
5. Get my main GAL activities on and be diligent about my physical healing so that I can start doing more stuff.
6. Have $hitloads of fun this year and plan some solo travel and travel with kiddos.
7. Start dating
I know there were some previous convos on my last thread and I will bring them back here. Don't worry about threadjacking - I am at a point in my sitch where we can have more wide ranging conversations as I am not looking for direct feedback on anything. I have my DBing and what I need to do covered.
