Hi Betsey - To be honest, I would rather NOT deal with this issue at all
Quote: I'm still not hip on putting myself out there for him to tromp on me (or anyone else, for that matter). But in order to build trust, we have to extend it and hope to hell that the other person acts responsibly with our hearts. Right?
Right. AND having had my heart trampled on so mercilessly with the A, I just don't know where I'm going to find the courage to open up.
Like you, this is going to be really difficult for me. BUT I must get this right, I honestly think this is a deal-breaker for the kind of relationship I now want. I can see H slipping back into the pre-A mode of minimal words and sharing, and I'm at risk of doing this too. For our R to thrive, and to attain its full potential, some of these old issues do need to be exposed. H too has a lot of baggage from his childhood, and I think seeing me shed my shell will encourage him to do so.
Just how to translate these lofty ideas into do-able daily actions is the next challenge. Thoughts, anyone?
