Thanks for the reassurance. It is hard to know the right thing to do. I try not to think about it, but double thinking (after the fact) is a problem for me.
For a long time my H insisted that the reoccurring tummy pains, the tears and the wanting to stay home from school had to do with hormones, starting highschool, and even potentially bullying. I don't think there's any bullying involved, but I do think that the other things are all part of it but it really really use to make me angry that he seemed to ignore the other major change in her life - her dad moving out. D12 is your stereotypical eldest child in that she likes to be in control everything and project a perfect life. This has shaken her foundations and that he refused to acknowledge it, well, I'm getting [censored] at him right now ... urgh ...
I don't know if he would be embarrassed about talking about 'girls' problems. I think he was just plain embarrassed about talking about any problems. Because he too is the eldest child and likes to be in control and project a perfect life.
