S, I just think your sitch is very different than his. Your timeline was extremely short (possibly the fastest on the boards) and she came back to you quickly. You also did not tolerate disrespectful/abusive/immature behavior. When a timeline is longer, as most of our timelines are, they become far more complex and we can make things slightly better or much worse, in how we respond and what we tolerate during the separation. I know I made my sitch far, far worse by being a mad woman. I feel like the advice Ovr needs is not telling him that yes, she could be remorseful down the road, but more so how he can require her treat him better now, with actions that is.
I'm really trying to understand what it is they are doing. Is she back in the home and they are piecing? Did she ever end her A? Is she remorseful at all or does she take any responsibility for what SHE has done to hurt the M? It's confusing to me that he says some things that suggest they are together (living together, at the lake, wearing rings, going to MC) but then she hasn't even admitted to an A, or ANY wrong doing, or possibly has a strong desire to even fix the M? Ovr, what is happening exactly? Because you disappear on us and it's still unclear. Are you living in limbo and taking her scraps and just don't know what to do now? Because we really CAN HELP you. I know we can. But you need to start with giving more info and allowing yourself to be vulnerable here. I think you know that somehthing is very wrong here, but perhaps you don't want us to know. I want to know. I want to help you. I hope you will let me....
Blu
Sorry for the misunderstanding. I was actually agreeing with AS that it takes a long time. Sometimes well into Ring.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
