It's nuts isn't it, DejaVu6? I'm so sorry you're going through your own D issues with your H. You're lucky your H talks to you about separating your finances and such, mine doesn't talk about this stuff only to tell me that he wants my lawyer to stop stalling and tells me not to worry because the courts will make sure I'm taken care of. (WTH is that even about??)

I notice the more positive I am and friendly, the more he runs. Its very odd.

I can look at photos now where he was happy and positive and then you can see the downhill happening around the time our some was diagnosed with Autism and his family members passed. I know he's messed up and that's part of this but it's just hard to see him hurting inside and not be there for him. My friends tell me I'm too nice and I know I am, it's just hard to let him go. I miss the old H so much and just wish he'd come and fight off this new H who is a jerk but I have to focus on my son and me now.

Keep us posted on your story, ((hugs)) we can do this, we're strong and wont be torn apart by this.

Together for 13 years, married for 8.
H is 46
I'm 40
S is 6
Bombdrop in April 2018
Still in limbo as of 2019