You sound great. Well thought out and clear headed.
I think you know how much I am a proponent of hope. Hope is a very powerful force; able to propel one through incredible difficulty or stall one in blindness to their own folly.
I only cautioned you about denial to ensure you see clearly, and I believe you do.
Keep your hope and let no one take it from you.
It does sound like you have a good deal in hand. I did have to smile at my own memory of my lawyer’s surprise at W’s offer and her signing of it. His advice to me was this is a very good deal - sign it. Sounds like your L is advising similarly, going to trial is really not worth it, considering the risk vs the reward (I also live where 50/50 is pretty much automatic). And you are correct, getting this done while he is hungry would be the easiest time.
I do understand your attachment to your house and business (B & B). I am not suggesting you have to sell it, I was just trying to help you see all the facets of what you can do, and might need to do.
I have hung on to my house for 27 years. Many of those I was working away from home. I know how comfortable and lucky it is to have a great home. Hang on to it, if you can; and I really do hope you can.
As for temptation, that is something a would love to discuss with you. However, you got lots on your plate. Short version is - temptation is a step in the LBS’s healing. Happens as indifference grows and one starts letting go, something tries to fill the void. Get through it, and let the feelings settle and flit away. You will get too who you really are, and what your true temptations and desires are.
Originally Posted by Gerda
I may give up, but definitely not today.
Oh, I like that.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
