Betsey, You know by now my passion for homework I went back to thread #8 to find the dialogue between you, Trish and many others, and a couple of things struck me as particularly pertinent.
Quote: Remember the windshield incident??? Do you really know why that worked?? Because he saw YOU with your defenses down...making an idiot of yourself. And that is OKAY!!...He saw you making a fool of yourself and he was now no longer the ONLY fool.... He doesn't neeed your bluffing......
He needs you to take the biggest risk of your life and let him see you.... warts and all, out of control, and making mistakes and embarrassed about them......TELLING HIM HOW YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART.
Being a soft.....vulnerable...... woman........ who needs him, her man....warts and all, mistakes and all......handling homeless bums, little girls with great needs and maybe just a little credit now and again for sticking in there...even though he hasn't been exactly accepted!
This is going to take a lot of skin shedding. BUT, I can totally see Trish's point. It MUST be easier to have fun with someone who can be foolish every now and then, as opposed to someone who falls apart only in the face of extreme adversity. Hmmm.
Thanks again, forpointing me in the direction of greater clarification, you and KAW and the rest of the folks here have been just what I need. Big, juicy hug to you all. Slowly.
I went back to thread #8 to find the dialogue between you, Trish and many others, and a couple of things struck me as particularly pertinent. 
