Hi KAW – It is so good to have your input – this 'strong woman' thing is a subject that has me puzzled for a while
Quote: maybe what H is attracted to are some aspects of vulnerability? Whether it be wanting the oppurtunity to be the prince that saves the damsel in distress or just to know that you don't always have an ironclad grasp on everything you're dealing with. Could it be every so often, he might like to be in a position where he can swoop in and save the day for you?
Yes, I can see how this would appeal to the 'new' him – but honestly, the man I first fell in love with had absolutely NO time for anything wishy-washy – his all time favourite character was Ripley in Aliens . I agree with you that this may be what he wants now, and more than likely I missed the changes in his needs. But man, I'm so with Betsey, this is BEYOND DIFFICULT. I'm looking through Betsey's comments now
Quote: What it DOES mean is that you allow him to comfort you and offer you strength when you need him. You allow him to see the side of you that hurts and needs TLC. You let him have access to the part of you that you keep hidden.
Another case of changing the habits of a lifetime – often I don't allow acknowledgement even to myself that something hurts, or that I may actually be struggling with a problem. Keeping a stiff upper lip has been an important characteristic in my family
Soo, on my updated goals will be 'identify opportunity every day to show H I need his help, or to invite him to comfort me' – starting with today – plan to ask him for ideas on a problem I'm having with our June flights, and yes, my normal approach would have been to solve it without 'bothering' him
I can see how this all ties in with patience, and letting go control. More heart work. My sacred journey
ps. KAW, We are still walking on egg shells around each other, so I think I'll leave the bedroom scenarios alone for a while
