She clearly doesn't know what she's talking about. There is no way a judge is going to ask a 6 year old kid what his wishes are. They do that when the kids are older (teenagers) to get an idea of what they want. A 6 year old doesn't know what he wants. They aren't mature enough to make such decisions.
The test that all jurisdictions use in custody situations is "best interest of the child."
Don't let her scare tactics and manipulation mess with you.
That’s the thing, Wanted—she totally believes she knows what she’s talking about. Either she’s correct, her research / assumptions are wrong, or she’s getting bad advice. I’m inclined to believe the last two.
What I am concerned about is the whole ‘best interest of the child’—especially with YS breast-feeding (until the fall, or about when she leaves for her training).
She cites the fact that judges supposedly side with the mother most (if not all) of the time.
And she could claim that I’m emotionally abusive and creating a toxic environment for the kids. She is painting the impression (right or not) that I could lose big on this—take the deal now.
I’m not necessarily willing to fight her on custody. I don’t want divorce, but I do acknowledge that co-parenting will be part of the reality if it gets that far. I just don’t want to leave the current residence. She doesn’t want to leave the children, either. But I’m not going to give up claims on living in our residence so easily.
She supposedly wants out of the MR so badly—why should I be the one to leave?
