I have to comment on KAW's post, because it hit a nerve with me. If he's right, then here's another similarity we share.
As Mr. Wonderful's masculinity has been an issue in C for quite some time, there is a corollary to that one. Not my femininity but that very issue KAW addressed: vulnerability.
I was assigned a horrid book to read, which devastated me (the author is a staunch anti-feminist and she suggested all sorts of lame things to act vulnerable). I won't give her credit here but I will say that a few issues really, really hit home with me.
You were not registered here when my BB buddy, Trish, slammed this one home for me--back in January. And I will tell you that she hit paydirt.
Let me fast forward to the book Hud had me read a month ago (Wild at Heart by John Eldgredge). The author pointedly says, "A man should NEVER come to a woman for strength--he comes to her to OFFER it."
If KAW is right, and I believe he is, there is nothing wrong with a strong woman--but there are times and places when vulnerability is entirely appropriate. This doesn't mean that you pretend you don't have a brain so he can look smarter than you...
What it DOES mean is that you allow him to comfort you and offer you strength when you need him. You allow him to see the side of you that hurts and needs TLC. You let him have access to the part of you that you keep hidden.
I'm here to tell you it's beyond difficult. I was taught to rely on myself and to keep myself together. We all have weaknesses, Slowly. Periodically, our spouse needs to see them.
A big hug to a friend across the pond.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
