I'm realizing I need to let her miss me. Obviously what I've been doing is not working. I don't think she has felt what it will really be like if we D. I've been too available to her and too willing to help her with things she should be doing in her own. She also have really felt what it's like to be alone without the kids since she is living with her parents. Her parents were out of town for a week recently and it was my weekend to have the boys. We talked recently about that and she said it made her really sad that she was all alone in the house. I don't think she's really thought about what life will be like if we D.
Flip this on its head. You need to prepare yourself for what it will be like when you are D'd. So start preparing. Let her go. Move on. She fired you as her H so don't BE her H anymore. But not for her, for you.
The side effect of this might be that she wakes up and realizes that D is not really what she hoped it was. But that shouldn't be the goal or you may end up disappointed.
Steve,
You're right that I should be moving on. I am slowly getting there and trying to drop the rope. I am preparing as if this is going to end in D. As I said before I'm making changes in myself to be a better partner and father with no expectation that it will change her mind. I'm going to be a great partner for W or for someone else in the future. I just wish it hadn't come to this to get me to look in the mirror and realize things needed to change but alas here I am.
I have a busy weekend scheduled with the boys so I am really looking forward to that.
