Re: Moving past the WAW to a stronger me Pt. 5

[Davide]

I don't get how you guys deal with constant or even regular interactions with the WS!

So, my w came over tonight to walk the dog and I happen to be around because it was raining and my bike ride was canceled. After she came back she asked me some questions and she hadn't received an email that I had sent her earlier today regarding logistics and financial stuff. But then she also asked to if I would be willing to talk with her, as she put it -- about feelings and stuff. I replied that I'd be happy to to listen to her. She commented that I seem to I always avoid or not respond when she asked about those things. That I don't share me feelings. I replied that I thought those conversations were for a relationship and that we weren't in a relationship.

Once again she was in tears the entire exchange. I am very good at being calm and collected and unemotional when dealing with her, but I think it also can come off as cold which is not really my intent. However, I really do try not to engage with her and share feelings or even what's going on in my life. She asked if I was planning on staying in the the town where we live and I replied that I didn't have any idea, because I don't.

It was tough to talk with her and have to deal with her emotionality. Not super painful, but it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I wonder if I should just be shutting down those talks that she wants. It makes md think she is looking for some type of absolution. And that is certainly not my role!

Sorry for any typos as I am on the phone.