LBS dealing with WW (part 7) (piecing?)

[Joe2017]

Vanilla is the best. She really really helped me pull myself out of depression when I was going through my D. I will give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't mean exactly that proving trust is the same as abuse.

In talking with my XW, she knew fairly early on that she screwed up royally when she divorced me. She tried to contact me but I ignored her repeatedly until she got the hint. I was not really ready for her to be back in my life and she was nowhere ready either. She actually said the other day "Thank you for recognizing that I wasn't ready to talk to you yet." She knows what she did and I think she understands what the consequences were for me emotionally, although she can't really know 100% since it's never happened to her.

I agree that my ICs advice [censored]. Not because she is wrong, but because it is so impractically hard to do that without the benefit of blind faith.

This is a very difficult process.