Slowly, Just catching up on you. WOW you have had some awesome things happen to you over the last several days. Congrats!! You have given me a ton of great advise so its my turn to share.
I too am a control freak, It is a hard habit to break but we must remember it is only a habit. We control it, it does not control us!!!
As for the ML, I think its great you initiate it, many women do not. I was once one of those women but not anymore. I realized what I was missing.LOL
IMO H will come around to initiating ML, we just have to stroke their little egos for a while thats all.
BTW- I really like what you wrote here.
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Looking at my big picture now, I know I will feel happier, more centred, and satisfied with my life. My actions will project to those around me a more graceful human being, whose behaviour conveys her appreciation for the blessings in her life. I'd like to be someone you'd want to spend time with.


You are a very strong woman. Blessing to you.

Halo Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.