Hi Maya - It is always good to get additional perspectives from fellow travellers.
Quote: What plans do you have to db while you are away? The time separated will be a great time to practice putting up the stop sign...release yourself from the crazymaker monster!
The good thing is that both the upcoming trips are just one night away each, unlike some of my trips last year which were week long ones. For both trips, I have plans to meet friends for dinner. But you are absolutely right, I do know that it will be tough, and I need to be prepared to counter the crazymaking
Quote: As far as H not initiating, become curious. Maybe think back to the times in your life when he had been initiating. How did he initate? Where and under what circumstances? What were the signals? Could you be missing some of these now?
I'v been racking my brains, and cannot think of a thing that is different now versus a year ago. And H too has repeatedly said (even to OW, in front of me) that apart from the A, there is nothing wrong with us, that we now have a deeper relationship. This man is still in denial, but I have to just keep doing what works, i.e. initiate, and leave him to his demons. I'm learning, slowly
