Thank you for your words of support. It means a lot.
I asked you if the emails sounded like H because I did wonder if he had, over time, been heavily influenced by the Godfather and that maybe the emails had been written by the GF and then edited by H.
As the above is not the case, I can’t decide if he’s mad or perfectly sane. However, from reading his diatribes, I’m sorry to say, that to me, he is not going to ‘wake up’.
I think you have to stop ‘standing’ for a marriage he says he’s not in, and hasn’t been for a long time.
I don’t even think he is in MLC anymore, I just think he wants out. I can’t see any hope at all. I’m sorry Gerda but I honestly think you have to let H go for your own sanity.
Even if by some miracle he did ‘wake up’ and wanted a reconciliation the words he’s said and written will never be erased from your mind. I’m finding R hard enough, and my H has never said or done the things I’ve read that others have done on this forum. Would you really, really want to put yourself through that?.
I always told myself I would stand by H and his MLC for two years from BD. I knew after that time, either the relationship with OW would end or grow deeper. Or at the very least H would know whether he wanted a reconciliation with me or not.
It’s five years down the line for you and he’s still the same. It’s your life too, you know.
Job has given you valuable advice (as always) and DnJ. Please let go and take care of you and the kids.
