See im scared if I show up the would do same with the restraining orders as she works at govt building with police.. I have a job thats in the mts but if I go back home with the dog I dont have a job lined up there. I wasn't working when I left. Its a rental we do not own the house and I can't remember whether my name is even on the lease honestly. I do have a key yes.
OK so it's a rental and only her name is on the lease? You voluntarily moved out. I would say given these facts, don't move back in. Just leave her be. Go completely dark on her. No contact at all. If she contacts you it's OK to reply, but keep it strictly business. You said earlier she almost let you come back 3 times, that tells me that feelings are still there. Even though she recently told you it's over, WAS's do change their minds back and forth all the time. She's done today, not sure tomorrow, wants to reconcile the day after, done again the day after that. Round and round they go. This is why going dark is effective. It gives her time to sort through her confusion. It helps her to learn to miss you. It helps her to realize whatever demons she is wrestling with are still there even though you are not, and as such are maybe not your fault after all. So go dark. Stay where you are, find a job, pull your life back together, focus on you. Get out and GAL and put her out of your head as much as you can. She may very well come back to you, but it will probably be a while first. A friend of mine's W left him and moved in with another guy. They sold their house and business and split the proceeds and he did not say one word to her for almost 2 years. Then she started reaching out to him, then dating etc. and now they are fully reconciled, living together and happier than I've ever seen them. So it happens. But it takes time.
I didnt Move persay. I grabbed a suitcase and the dog cause she said she didnt want the dog there anymore. ALL My stuff is still there. Everything She wants to just ship it to wherever i will be .
I tend to agree with AS. Barging back in to a rental home 1000 miles away feels unnecessary. Have her ship your things and go dark. Basically, what you can do now is to go out and live a happy and successful life where you are. Lay down roots and grow into a person that only a fool would leave.
