LBS dealing with WW (part 7) (piecing?)

[Joe2017]

Interesting idea about earning trust being abusive. I can see how there is a fine line between requiring transparency and control-freak revenge, however I am unsure it automatically equals abuse.

For the record, my XW gave me access to her phone and her social media passwords before I even asked for it. She just sent it to me in a text one day out of the blue when she was at a party. Her phone password was also volunteered because she said she wanted me to be comfortable and see that she's not hiding things.

I understand her viewpoint about the text response to OM being a non-issue. Her XOM is a vindictive, aggressive, and abusive person so she was trying to keep the peace after she sent him the text about breaking contact. Obviously, she does not have the same understanding of NC as we generally keep on this site. I am trying to be patient, but she can be stubborn. I don't really receive any pushback when it comes to what I have asked for, and she has been very compliant for the most part.

She is by nature very impatient, so I can tell she is trying really hard when we've talked about the same topic multiple times at length...two or three times. She gets frustrated and then she thinks repeating herself means I don't believe her. I am being as patient as I can. She has quite a lot on her plate with her job, parenting, gym, etc. so weeknights are bad times for us to talk about things. I usually catch her at a bad time, so I am revisiting the chapter in DR that addresses the no-go times when talking is more likely to start an argument (like before work, PMS, etc.).

I am trying my best. One day at a time.