LH, Joseph, AS and Maika -- thanks for your thoughts, all good advice...unlike me, you guys have this all figured out it would seem. I think the vacillation we see is best ignored and if indeed it's just periodic temperature checking, the running cold that follows is probably because the hot doesn't elicit the reaction they perhaps wanted to unequivocally confirm "still available", if that makes sense (I'm careful not to engage in anything that resembles relationship talk or pursuit through compliments or otherwise). I still remember Maika's "test" at the 6 month mark and how he vowed never again because he didn't like how it left him feeling when W said she still felt the same way. That was a good cautionary tale, no need to give them that satisfaction without something from them that leaves no doubt how they will respond.
I do believe that although the expected contrition and humility may not be the same for the WAW, they all make it obvious if and when they want to R and anything short of that is temperature checking (for reasons that are known only to them, no good comes from trying to mind read). And again, when they don't get the reaction they expected or perhaps wanted, i.e. attention, they get kinda pouty.
And LH, yes, working on the wrong side of 40 with two or three young children makes for a shallow dating pool...and not just for women, although I expect it's harder for them in part because a lot of men will pretend to be interested in order to get some...shoplifting the pootie, lol (Jerry Maguire).
Dont think of yourself on the wrong side of 40. I am 38. One of my goals has been met and that was to get from 265lbs to 185lbs. Im actually at 177lbs now. The dating pool grows exponentially when you are a healthy and fit older man. For example, I met a very nice 25 year old woman who I enjoy talking to.
She is also drop dead gorgeous and has a degree so she can hold an intelligent conversation with me for more than a few minutes. If/when you are at the point where you are moving on completely and looking for a woman, you will have zero issues finding one. I also have three kids. I get propositioned for dates almost daily now at work which is very new to me. But I sure as hell enjoy the attention!
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
