This question is really not one you should waste another minute on. Remember me telling you that it's about him and not you?
Maybe in time you will get these answers. In the meantime, you've got some good info here.
You say he's not good at initiating but good at responding. This guy is really fearing rejection, Slowly! This takes all the pressure off him.
Do you feel that maintainting intimacy is keeping him connected to you? If so, are you willing to continue to initiate until this works itself out?
Just continue being the classy lady that you are. One day, he just might have his epiphany that what he wanted was right in front of him all along. By then, you will have worked out some of the issues that were creating discomfort before.
Repeat after me: I will be patient. I trust the process.
I promise that you will come out the better person in the end if you can make those statements your mantra.
A big hug to you,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
