See im scared if I show up the would do same with the restraining orders as she works at govt building with police.. I have a job thats in the mts but if I go back home with the dog I dont have a job lined up there. I wasn't working when I left. Its a rental we do not own the house and I can't remember whether my name is even on the lease honestly. I do have a key yes.
You can only control your actions. Do not worry about her reaction, that is beyond your control. You aren't moving there to make her want you or to see that she is wrong, you are moving there because that's what you want. Being closer may or may not help. Your actions can help or hurt, though. She can do what she wants. She wants out and you don't, correct? Then why should you be the one to leave?
My W is using the restraining order to isolate me from the kids, to try and get the marital home, and to not have to communicate with me about anything while she knows there is little I could do to fight it. It will get cleared up soon at the hearing. I am confident in that.
You show up, move in, get a life, get a job, get some friends, and that's what you can control. You aren't being mean and nasty, just different than before. You are taking some control for yourself. You have to be prepared for anything when you get there though. Could be she already has an OM living in the house. Anything.
Think before you act, think before you speak. Ask yourself, 'Will what I am about to say/do help or hurt the situation?'
How far to the mountain job? I assumed that you would work there if you moved back.
mountain job is way to far to drive to. id be living up their for the rest of season at ski resort which is only 3 months. They have seperate housing thats really cheap for employees.
I have asked myself that question and i dont see how going back when she clearly doesnt want me there would help the situation
