needing help, dealing with a waw ??

[LB55]

Sorry to hear about your situation bubbs. I am in a similar situation, a bit different, but I am 1000 miles from home due to work, not because she kicked me out. I went home for Thanksgiving and got the bomb dropped on me that she doesn't think we can be together, blah, blah, blah. Told me I couldn't live there, she needed space to think, all the same stuff. Then I went home for Christmas and got served divorce papers with restraining orders that prevented me from going to the house. I was crushed, despondent, trying to find fixes for all the stuff she blamed me for, etc...none of it works, because the problem isn't YOU. You may have done things that contributed; work on those and improve for YOU, that is all you can do at this point. Pursuit and groveling will get you more of the same. The distance issue seems insurmountable, but the space has really helped me to detach from the situation and start getting myself together for the long haul.

These situations all have similar components to them. Start reading and educating yourself on what you can expect going forward. She is in control of everything right now and doesn't want to think about giving any back to you. Thus the demands about keys and stuff. She is in a fog and is running from your pursuit.

The number one thing I have learned so far...control what you can control. Your emotions, your actions, your reactions, and what comes out of your mouth.

Listen to R2C and AS. They have good advice. Show up, move in, do your thing. She can leave if she wants.